“If we think of the brain like an organic computer, then the quality of your life is only as good as the thought-ware you install. And just like in actual computers running electronic software, your thought-ware eventually becomes old and obsolete. It no longer serves you. Your operating system has evolved, and so must your thought-ware. If you are an organic machine with a natural computer at the helm, the only way to get the machine to produce/create/manifest what you want is to run the thought-ware which makes that happen. Which inevitably means uninstalling the old applications (UNLEARNING old thoughts), downloading new thought patterns that serve you better (LEARNING new ones), and running those applications all the time until your operating system can run them with maximum efficiency (REWIRING).”

Episode 208

Updating Your Thought-ware

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Hello, Gorgeous Soul.

I’ve got quite a message for you today.

This week the MOST used app on my computer crashed.

Thanks mercury retrograde…ding.

So the pages app basically where EVERY thing I’ve thought of lives, usually in an open tab on pages which is probably why it crashed but OMG when NOTHING was working…force quit, shutting the computer off, unplugging the computer.

The thought of nearly 10 years worth of my work being gone made me want to throw up.

I was scouring the internet for ANYTHING that might make the spinning wheel of death stop so I could get back to my 86 documents in process.

Nothing.

The only option?

Uninstall the entire program. Remove the ENTIRE thing.

I had no idea what would happen. The internet told me two things, one it would be fine and the other it will all be gone.

50/50 of what was going to happen.

But 100% sure I couldn’t use the program anymore so I uninstalled it.

Removed the application.

There was a few moments of complete unknown. Did I just lose a decade worth of work? Content? Classes? Workshops? Podcast episodes, and about 1000 documents in progress, potentially becoming something important someday?

I went to the app store, found the pages app and installed the new program onto my computer.

And the moment of truth came when I went to file – open.

Was it going to be empty?

 OMG it was all still there.

And not only that, but instead of having 87 open tabs, it was like a got a fresh start. All of those half started ideas were sitting in the folder, NOT cluttering up my desktop.

I made myself the same promise I made myself when I first got the computer.

I will NOT let this happen again.

I will NOT have a gazillion open tabs. I will put it where it belongs before I start a new document.

Which HA good luck with an adhd brain that likes to DART off in new directions after just about every thought.

Anyway.

Because I am ALWAYS perpetually looking at my life and the world for lessons, things to learn, things to help me expand, OBVIOUSLY this is no exception.

So here we go.

If we think of the brain like an organic computer, then the quality of your life is only as good as the thought-ware you install.

When you were born, your mind was a clean slate, running a simple emotional and physiological operating system. Its job was to keep you alive and get your needs met. As you got older, the adults in your life installed and started running their own mental “software” – or, thought-ware – onto your operating system. Then you got older still, and began installing your own thought-ware which you habitually run depending on what you’re trying to do in life. Trying to fit in? Launch the “Mimic Others” program! Trying to get attention? Run the “Pout and Storm Off” application!

And just like in actual computers running electronic software, your thought-ware eventually becomes old and obsolete. It no longer serves you. Your operating system has evolved, and so must your thought-ware. If you are an organic machine with a natural computer at the helm, the only way to get the machine to produce/create/manifest what you want is to run the thought-ware which makes that happen. Which inevitably means uninstalling the old applications (UNLEARNING old thoughts), downloading new thought patterns that serve you better (LEARNING new ones), and running those applications all the time until your operating system can run them with maximum efficiency (REWIRING).

You are a gorgeous soul.

You CHOSE to come have a human experience.

That’s what I believe.

We could’ve been anything at all and we CHOSE THIS…this human thing even though it’s got so much pain and drama and suffering – for whatever reason.

But the gorgeous soul part of us KNOWS that the deal with choosing the human experience is that the humans come with a FULL range of human emotions.

I always think of it like the soul wanted an adventure and what better way than to become a human being.

Basically a COMPUTER that needs to be programmed in order to work and then is constantly downloading new programming throughout its lifetime based on whatever the human who owns the computer decides to add.

So it starts as a blank slate, this human.

All humans are sourced from the same computer factory. Love. Corny, right?

But we all come from love and our natural state is JOY.

Find me a newborn who is evil and hate filled.

You can’t. That has to be programmed in by other humans.

So the first programing of the human is VERY basic.

Stay alive, get basic needs met.

Basic survival needs and safety needs.

As a newborn humans are completely dependent on the older humans.

There’s some programming that’s been passed down through DNA – health coding, wealth coding, generational trauma, things like that that’s just programmed into the basic operating system.

The subconscious beliefs that we don’t question because we’ve never known there’s a different option.

People who are born into poverty or oppression and whose families have been impoverished and oppressed for generations have that coding built into the dna.

You have stories about your money, your worth, what’s possible for you based on beliefs that were coded into your subconscious.

And THEN there’s all the programming we add to the computer because we’re trying to stay safe, be liked, be loved, be accepted, be approved of, not be rejected, not be judged, not be abandoned.

We learn which nervous system programs to download based typically on experiences we have that create big emotions or seem to threaten our safety and security.

It seems like people do NOT like it when I have really big emotions. When I’m sad my dad tells me to get over it that it’s not that bad that I don’t have anything to cry about. When I’m angry my mom seems ashamed of me, tells me to get it together, makes me go in another room, ignores me. My teacher LOVES when I follow the rules and I’m obedient, Omgosh do I get praised…stickers, gold stars, prizes because I’m so GOOD.

I should probably find a program that will help me get a handle on these emotions. Because emotions appear to be things that I REALLY need to get a handle on…ok THIS program teaches me how to shove down the feelings.

THIS program will give me things to cover up the feelings…food! Trying harder! Energy managing and people pleasing! And as we get older…Alcohol, drugs, shopping!

We start installing programs to help us manage FEELINGS based on what we learn from our parents, our teachers, our caregivers, our friends.

We install THOUGHT programs based on what we observe in the world and from our families.

We install thought programs about our worthiness, what it means to be successful, what it means to be a good person, a good woman or man, a good mom or dad.

These thought programs are the RULES of the operating system. Programs about basically EVERYTHING that you download and they run the computer without question.

SO many programs we’ve installed onto this computer.

Programs designed to make us more “efficient” but often end up slowing us down.

And the more programs we install the further away we get from the BASIC system.

Love and joy.

THAT is the default factory settings.

The rest…the things that keep you safe, to keep you alive, to keep you worthy, to keep you from being rejected are PROGRAMMED in.

You can question EVERY program running in the background and decide what programs are ACTUALLY keeping you safe and which ones are slowing down the whole system.

And you can uninstall those.

In Rewired I call this the Unlearning part of the process.

Going through the stories, beliefs that you’ve simply let run in the background and we QUESTION them, we look at them and decide is this program worthy of keeping?

Is this story creating what I want/

Is this belief I was handed actually keeping me safe OR is it keeping me safe from creating the future self that I WANT?

Whatever is not working for you, you can change.

Whatever you want to manifest, you can manifest.

Whatever feeling you want your life to have, you can create it.

I will never pretend this means that you will live a perfect life. That’s not what you signed up for when you decided to become a human.

But KNOWING that your default settings are love and joy?

As you move through your own process of transformation and you keep reminding yourself who I AM is love and joy, not hate and evil. Made from Love and joy, not fucked up and hopeless.

Love and joy. Natural state. You’ve already got THAT going for you. Which is nice.

It’s like if you lived your entire life right handed and then somebody said HEY you have to be left handed now so you have to relearn everything as a leftie, but you were told that you actually always WERE a lefty.

It’s not that the unlearning the way you do things with your right hand and rewiring your brain to be a lefty isn’t going to take time and require effort, but knowing that you originally WERE a lefty is going to give you a little steady place to start. I inherently know how to be a lefty, I just have to relearn.

YOU inherently are worthy and love and joy, you just have to relearn.

You just have to reprogram the system.

In order to transform, manifest, change old patterns, create new in a FOREVER way, not just in a for a few weeks way, you’ve got to learn how to recalibrate the SYSTEMS.

Instead of installing a program to COVER, AVOID, FIX the feelings that show up as a human, you’ve simply got Learn how to MANAGE the emotions.

You’ve got to learn emotional OWNERSHIP + emotional RESILIENCE so that the first time doubt shows up you don’t quit, so that the first time frustration enters the arena you don’t run to food or alcohol or busy yourself to avoid the feelings.

If you want to manifest shit you have GOT to uninstall the immature programs you learned as a child and learn MATURE emotional coping skills. If you don’t do this? I’m sorry to say that you will keep shutting down at the same places you always have. It’s JUST the way it is.

You’ve got to uninstall the current programs about your THOUGHTS.

You’ve got to learn how to QUESTION the thoughts that pop into your head instead of blindly believing every one of them. It’s often MIND blowing when people realize that their thoughts are almost 95% bullshit. That most of their thoughts are NOT their own original ideas, like OMG my body needs to be perfect in order to be worthy or the way to make sure people respect you is to be in charge, to be leading, to have money. Those stories are NOT coming from love and joy, they are coming from your dad. Which he got from HIS dad. Or from society’s manipulation of us which is DESIGNED to distance you from love and joy because it is HARD HARD HARD to sell beauty or diet or SUCCESS plans to a person who’s fully embodied in their worth.

Ok? You get me?

You’ve got to learn to QUESTION the thoughts by becoming an observer of them, learning to zoom out. You’ve got to UNINSTALL the code that was programed into you and return to default settings.

THIS is how actual lasting transformation happens.

Uninstalling the outdated and unhealthy programming about your nervous system, your feelings, your thoughts, your beliefs.

Restoring to default settings….love and joy. This is where you manifest because it is clear. There are no outdated programs to move through.

And you MINDFULLY install the programming that will SUPPORT your manifestation your future self the life you DESIRE.

THIS is what we do in Rewired.

THIS is what the women in rewire do at the retreat. Uninstall shit, return to their natural state.

And then for the months of coaching that happen after the retreat, they hardwire the new programs in.
Now listen. I have an important announcement about this.

The next round of Rewired begins next month, the retreat is in November 2-6. The coaching goes into the new year until about February.

Here’s the announcement.

THIS is the last round of Rewired.

Rewired is not going to be offered in 2023 at all. I have something else I’m creating. IF you’ve wanted to do rewired, and you keep saying maybe later. This is it, friend.

I am retiring it, I don’t know for GOOD, but definitely there are no future plans at this time.

I know it’s a whole investment, not just the financial investment, but the retreat, the transformation.

This is the last round. There are 4 spots. Possibly 5.

Rewired has changed SO many lives and I’m not retiring it because it’s not working…it’s because it’s SO good I’m creating something that I can offer to more people.

Rewired will be enrolling the week of October 5-9th. You’ll need to set up a 10 minute call with me to make sure it’s a good fit and as long as it is, you’re in!

Alright, gorgeous soul.

All of this because my pages app crashed. I can find lessons ANYWHERE.

Have a great week ~ love you so much!

A Great Place to Start

– Kristen

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